Troubled relationship

"Di parin po kami okay." from a woman, early 20's. she's in a relationship and after several days of disagreement, they are still not settled.

i cannot do anything about him (his boyfriend). counseling is a confidential matter; it is far above friendship or any family relationship. counseling is not biased for it is fact oriented. i cannot intervene regarding him unless he seeks for my advice. it is true that the only persons who can really work-out a troubled relationship are the persons who are involved.

i can give you some practical tips to reflect upon to improve yourself for your relationship:

1.prudence is always important for it involved good timing on everything;
2.waiting is irritating but most of the time it is how things work for we don't always find answers right away in the real world;
3.always think twice before uttering any word for the mind and heart would understand them according to the person's mood, expectation about you and his respect for him/herself;
4.to say sorry is always the easy part but to repair the damages caused by imprudent actions would take a long time, even, sometimes, a lifetime because for many, trust is being broken in this situation;
5.give freedom to the person you love, it is giving respect and dignity to who he is. to hold him too tight is a sign of distrust; do not nag, boy's don't like being scolded like a child, it is the more they won't open to you; otherwise, they will start to lie just to please you; men usually talk too little.
6.be honest, do not pretend to be like someone else or do not over value yourself because disappointment is the start of the end of any relationship; sometimes, disappointment is also a measurement of how he really loves you since no relationship is already perfect in the beginning. also, the guy always know if the test is just fabricated so be mindful not to hurt his ego. love is only perfected through time when all the strengths and weaknesses of the person is fully embraced by the other person;
7.in a relationship, you need to change yourself for the better not of yourself but of your relationship;
8.balance your work and relationship, you also have a life of your own. if you have a problem with your love life, do not let your other relationships be affected by it;
9.and do not overeat like the other girls i have known, they just get fat right away. release your life's tensions on a more positive way.
10.lastly, pray that something great would happen. after praying, act accordingly and claim that God is by your side.